A spiritual lesson from toddlers

I did a reading over the weekend where I connected a family with their deceased grandmother. Over the course of the reading, the spirit made it clear to me that she had tried contacting specific members of the family on several occasions. She showed me that although her daughter and granddaughter had both received her messages, they both dismissed the signs, believing them to be coincidences. This made sense to me, because I’ve been in their shoes. When I was first starting out on my journey, I definitely doubted and thought things were too coincidental to be substantial.

But what I didn’t understand was why the spirit had hung around for so long after so many of her messages fell on deaf ears. I began to ask and she showed me – the baby. Her great-granddaughter, not quite two years old yet. The spirit (whom I’ll call Caren to avoid confusion) showed me the baby again, how she giggled and laughed and gargled… and lastly, how she had smiled directly at Caren.

I told the baby’s mother, Caren’s granddaughter, how Caren spent a great deal of time around her. How she loved to watch the baby play with her toys and figure out how they worked and what she could do with them. At the time, that was all I understood, but I was missing a big piece of Caren’s message.

Later, after the reading was finished, I thought about it some more and I realized what she had been trying to tell me, and immediately felt embarrassed that I hadn’t caught it before. Caren spent so much time around the baby because the baby can tell she’s there. The baby pays attention to Caren, more so than the adults in the family. Which again, makes so much sense it thunderstruck me when I realized it. At just shy of 2 years old, there’s no way her great-granddaughter can tell that she’s aware of something no one else can see. The adults, on the other hand, are perfectly capable of talking themselves out of the subtle things they have been noticing. Especially when the spirit attempts to communicate through dreams, the adults are even more inclined to just brush it off.

Perhaps this is why we tend to feel that children are the targets of ‘hauntings’ and spiritual visitors; the kids don’t have blinders on. They’re undeniably more open than us adults because their brains are still learning how to filter information. The subtle and the unseen are not subtle to them; those feelings are up in the kid’s face and very obvious to them. As adults, we have learned how to concentrate, and through concentration, we learn to filter things out. We have so many responsibilities and small things that come up during the day that it makes sense for us to filter things out. We’d really struggle if we couldn’t. No, our problem is that we shut too much out and we don’t open up enough.

Which… again… is understandable. We live in a world that is more and more self-involved than ever. We have mobile phones that don’t just call people, they connect with email, Facebook and Twitter. All of these encourage people to be more accessible, to be reached regardless of the time of day or however you are contacting them. Society has progressed in a way that we often feel this is necessary in order to keep up with everything. But it means that we are spending less time with just ourselves for company, which isn’t always a good thing. Especially not to the spirit world that is constantly trying to grab our attention. What are the spiritually-unaware to do? These spirit voices become just another noise in an already cluttered spectrum.

I’ve been reading the book, So You Want to Be a Medium by Rose Vanden Eynden. In the beginning of the book, she talked about two basic laws we need to adhere to as mediums or spiritual workers, but I think they’re pretty important to any living folk who aspire to hear from their deceased family. This law says basically, give what you get. If you ask for a sign and you get it, acknowledge it (on an individual basis) and share it with any involved (when you’re acting as a medium for others).  I think a lot of people would benefit from trying to adhere to this when they are hoping for their passed families to contact them. It’s just like talking to your neighbor. If you ask them a question, they’re probably going to answer. Just make sure you’re paying attention for it and you’ll find it.