A spiritual lesson from toddlers

I did a reading over the weekend where I connected a family with their deceased grandmother. Over the course of the reading, the spirit made it clear to me that she had tried contacting specific members of the family on several occasions. She showed me that although her daughter and granddaughter had both received her messages, they both dismissed the signs, believing them to be coincidences. This made sense to me, because I’ve been in their shoes. When I was first starting out on my journey, I definitely doubted and thought things were too coincidental to be substantial.

But what I didn’t understand was why the spirit had hung around for so long after so many of her messages fell on deaf ears. I began to ask and she showed me – the baby. Her great-granddaughter, not quite two years old yet. The spirit (whom I’ll call Caren to avoid confusion) showed me the baby again, how she giggled and laughed and gargled… and lastly, how she had smiled directly at Caren.

I told the baby’s mother, Caren’s granddaughter, how Caren spent a great deal of time around her. How she loved to watch the baby play with her toys and figure out how they worked and what she could do with them. At the time, that was all I understood, but I was missing a big piece of Caren’s message.

Later, after the reading was finished, I thought about it some more and I realized what she had been trying to tell me, and immediately felt embarrassed that I hadn’t caught it before. Caren spent so much time around the baby because the baby can tell she’s there. The baby pays attention to Caren, more so than the adults in the family. Which again, makes so much sense it thunderstruck me when I realized it. At just shy of 2 years old, there’s no way her great-granddaughter can tell that she’s aware of something no one else can see. The adults, on the other hand, are perfectly capable of talking themselves out of the subtle things they have been noticing. Especially when the spirit attempts to communicate through dreams, the adults are even more inclined to just brush it off.

Perhaps this is why we tend to feel that children are the targets of ‘hauntings’ and spiritual visitors; the kids don’t have blinders on. They’re undeniably more open than us adults because their brains are still learning how to filter information. The subtle and the unseen are not subtle to them; those feelings are up in the kid’s face and very obvious to them. As adults, we have learned how to concentrate, and through concentration, we learn to filter things out. We have so many responsibilities and small things that come up during the day that it makes sense for us to filter things out. We’d really struggle if we couldn’t. No, our problem is that we shut too much out and we don’t open up enough.

Which… again… is understandable. We live in a world that is more and more self-involved than ever. We have mobile phones that don’t just call people, they connect with email, Facebook and Twitter. All of these encourage people to be more accessible, to be reached regardless of the time of day or however you are contacting them. Society has progressed in a way that we often feel this is necessary in order to keep up with everything. But it means that we are spending less time with just ourselves for company, which isn’t always a good thing. Especially not to the spirit world that is constantly trying to grab our attention. What are the spiritually-unaware to do? These spirit voices become just another noise in an already cluttered spectrum.

I’ve been reading the book, So You Want to Be a Medium by Rose Vanden Eynden. In the beginning of the book, she talked about two basic laws we need to adhere to as mediums or spiritual workers, but I think they’re pretty important to any living folk who aspire to hear from their deceased family. This law says basically, give what you get. If you ask for a sign and you get it, acknowledge it (on an individual basis) and share it with any involved (when you’re acting as a medium for others).  I think a lot of people would benefit from trying to adhere to this when they are hoping for their passed families to contact them. It’s just like talking to your neighbor. If you ask them a question, they’re probably going to answer. Just make sure you’re paying attention for it and you’ll find it.

The 411 on Spirit Guides

I have often heard this complaint from people; “I’m trying to contact my spirit guide, but I never seem to get anywhere.”

It’s not usually followed by “I don’t know what I’m doing wrong”, it’s usually just frustration and annoyance. Are you one of these people who is actively trying to connect to spiritual guidance in your life? First, congratulations! The number of people who are looking at spiritual guidance is growing every day, and it’s okay to be in that shallow water where you’re not sure WHAT you’re looking for, but you know you feel something out there.

Second, consider all the things you’ve been doing in attempt to contact your spirit guide. Have you been meditating? Consulting oracles, like runes, tarot cards or tea leaves? How about trying affirmations and visualizations where you’re meeting and conversing your guide? Are you among those who repeatedly try opening your third eye chakra in meditation?

Things still not clicking quite yet?

Here’s a little secret. Your guides have ALREADY been talking to you. That’s right! They’ve been trying to subtly guide you in the right direction your whole life.  Let’s revisit what exactly a spirit guide is, just so we’re all on the same page.

A spirit guide is, well, a guide without a body. Some people call them guardian angels, others call them imaginary friends. Different cultures, different people all believe we have different amounts; some say we only have one, others say we have access to dozens. Here’s what I know. It doesn’t matter what specific title you use to refer to them, but everyone has one that follows them from birth to the afterlife. If you believe in past lives, they’re with you between lives and help you plan out your next one, and they’re there to escort you back to spirit when the time is ready.

So, if you’ve been trying all the different methods I listed before, and feel like you haven’t gotten any response, it’s because you’ve been trying too hard. Your spirit guide has been with you your whole life; they are your closest friends because they have seen you when you are at your worst, and they made the commitment to stay with you through this life. Don’t be afraid of them, and don’t try so hard to look for them. They’re right there beside you, just like they have been.

If you’re in this position, try taking a break for a few days from all the psychic workouts. Relax; practice meditation as an art of inner stillness and a way to help you access the spiritual. This will help you filter out the daily and mundane and before you know it, you’ll be able to distinguish their voices. They WANT to talk to you, but they speak quietly, so ask simple questions, and listen for a reply. Trust me, you’ll get one.