A spiritual lesson from toddlers

I did a reading over the weekend where I connected a family with their deceased grandmother. Over the course of the reading, the spirit made it clear to me that she had tried contacting specific members of the family on several occasions. She showed me that although her daughter and granddaughter had both received her messages, they both dismissed the signs, believing them to be coincidences. This made sense to me, because I’ve been in their shoes. When I was first starting out on my journey, I definitely doubted and thought things were too coincidental to be substantial.

But what I didn’t understand was why the spirit had hung around for so long after so many of her messages fell on deaf ears. I began to ask and she showed me – the baby. Her great-granddaughter, not quite two years old yet. The spirit (whom I’ll call Caren to avoid confusion) showed me the baby again, how she giggled and laughed and gargled… and lastly, how she had smiled directly at Caren.

I told the baby’s mother, Caren’s granddaughter, how Caren spent a great deal of time around her. How she loved to watch the baby play with her toys and figure out how they worked and what she could do with them. At the time, that was all I understood, but I was missing a big piece of Caren’s message.

Later, after the reading was finished, I thought about it some more and I realized what she had been trying to tell me, and immediately felt embarrassed that I hadn’t caught it before. Caren spent so much time around the baby because the baby can tell she’s there. The baby pays attention to Caren, more so than the adults in the family. Which again, makes so much sense it thunderstruck me when I realized it. At just shy of 2 years old, there’s no way her great-granddaughter can tell that she’s aware of something no one else can see. The adults, on the other hand, are perfectly capable of talking themselves out of the subtle things they have been noticing. Especially when the spirit attempts to communicate through dreams, the adults are even more inclined to just brush it off.

Perhaps this is why we tend to feel that children are the targets of ‘hauntings’ and spiritual visitors; the kids don’t have blinders on. They’re undeniably more open than us adults because their brains are still learning how to filter information. The subtle and the unseen are not subtle to them; those feelings are up in the kid’s face and very obvious to them. As adults, we have learned how to concentrate, and through concentration, we learn to filter things out. We have so many responsibilities and small things that come up during the day that it makes sense for us to filter things out. We’d really struggle if we couldn’t. No, our problem is that we shut too much out and we don’t open up enough.

Which… again… is understandable. We live in a world that is more and more self-involved than ever. We have mobile phones that don’t just call people, they connect with email, Facebook and Twitter. All of these encourage people to be more accessible, to be reached regardless of the time of day or however you are contacting them. Society has progressed in a way that we often feel this is necessary in order to keep up with everything. But it means that we are spending less time with just ourselves for company, which isn’t always a good thing. Especially not to the spirit world that is constantly trying to grab our attention. What are the spiritually-unaware to do? These spirit voices become just another noise in an already cluttered spectrum.

I’ve been reading the book, So You Want to Be a Medium by Rose Vanden Eynden. In the beginning of the book, she talked about two basic laws we need to adhere to as mediums or spiritual workers, but I think they’re pretty important to any living folk who aspire to hear from their deceased family. This law says basically, give what you get. If you ask for a sign and you get it, acknowledge it (on an individual basis) and share it with any involved (when you’re acting as a medium for others).  I think a lot of people would benefit from trying to adhere to this when they are hoping for their passed families to contact them. It’s just like talking to your neighbor. If you ask them a question, they’re probably going to answer. Just make sure you’re paying attention for it and you’ll find it.


What I’m Reading

I’m going to start sharing books that I’m reading on a regular basis. As a self-identified librophile, I have a deep love for books; this includes reading, writing, and constantly looking for more. I have a tendency to purchase more books than I can read. I always carry a book with me. I got a Kindle for Christmas and although I love the actual, physical look and feel of a book, I am totally amped to be able to take a large selection of books with me wherever I go. I also appreciate the convenience of being able to discreetly read about perhaps controversial topics without displaying the book cover. So – welcome to my new segment!

With thousands of books at my fingertips, and the ability to download a free sample from literally every book available [as an eBook] on Amazon, I have been branching out into some new material. I bought a book called The Ghost Hunter’s Survival Guide: Protection Techniques for Encounters With The Paranormal by Michelle Belanger.  I checked out a few of the reviews, downloaded the sample and immediately bought the book. I am now halfway through the book and I thoroughly love it. Belanger has an extremely down-to-earth narrative style (although a bit technical at times). She opens the door to psychic protection by talking about a comic strip where a man is bringing an imaginary mongoose to his brother who is suffering hallucinations of imaginary snakes.

The basics of grounding, centering, and shielding have been covered, as one would expect in any basic psychic protection book. The interesting thing, however, is the length to which Belanger describes all of the intricacies related with the world of energy, combined with the variety of modalities she addresses. She has information and techniques for the skeptic who doesn’t believe in a higher power as well as including information from Tibetan monks, Christian priests, and even brings up Voodoo for a bit. She clearly knows what she’s talking about and presents the material in a clear, straightforward manner.

This is all in an attempt to create a manual for every ghost hunter, regardless of beliefs. I’m just over halfway through the book and I’d say she’s met that goal. I have always had a pretty natural understanding of how energy works (I can’t tell you how often I wrote stories as a kid about people who could manipulate the energy around them and how fluently I had everything thought out) so I haven’t necessarily learned anything new, so to speak.  But she put everything in a way that was easier for me to understand and I’ll borrow to explain things to people who don’t understand how the spirit world.

You should check out this book if;

  • you are interested in learning more about how the spirit world works
  • you feel like you might be psychic or wish you were psychic
  • you need to know anything about psychic protection, including protecting yourself, helping another protect themselves, and/or cleansing and protecting a home.
  • you are a ghost hunter and actively put yourself in ‘the fray’ with lingering spirits and energies
  • you are a hopeful skeptic about the spirit world
  • you have an extra $10 in your pocket.