I’ve moved!

Hey guys! I’ve been meaning to post here but I just haven’t gotten around to it.. until now.

I haven’t been posting here because I’ve moved over to my self-hosted blog, Spirit Guided Solutions. I’ve had some exciting new developments; be sure to check it out so you can stay up to date as I’m moving into an office and writing a book.

Hope to see you there!

Don’t Take Anything Personally – Seriously

It’s a huge waste of energy to take anything very personally. Why? Because no one does very much for anyone other than themselves. And that’s not a bad thing, really! I mean it, I do it, too. It’s okay to donate to charity because it makes you feel better. It’s okay to indulge in weekly tarot readings for yourself, because you enjoy it. We live in a society where this is not only extremely commonplace, it’s a fact of life.

But something else that you should consider is that when you take things personally… you are, in effect, blocking your own future. Because you are centering your reactions around an external force, you are consciously giving up your power to another person. And why would you WANT to do that? Seriously, people, think about it.

This is talked about in depth in the Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. It’s one of four key concepts he presents in this book.

Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.

What he’s trying to tell you is that when people oppose you, it isn’t because they are judging your character, or your motives, or anything like that. They honestly don’t care. People are going to do what they want regardless of what you do. You have a choice – you can either sit and whine about it, make a big deal about it… or you can decide to trust yourself, to keep your power inside.

As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won’t need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you. When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.

Ruiz isn’t telling us to live in our own bubble, or to avoid other people. He’s reminding us that we are just human, and that we should remember this about our fellow humans. We are all equally selfish in this aspect. He’s not telling us we can’t get angry about things that other people have done. He’s just saying, they didn’t mean to hurt you, and it’s a pretty poor way to spend time thinking that they did.

Blessings to you!

Your turn

So far this year I’ve talked about children & ghosts, your spirit guides, Reiki, bills, spirituality, accountability… and of course, tarot. But there’s another month left to go! What would you like to see me talk about? Scroll down to the comments section and let me know!

I am thankful for my bills

It sounds weird, I know. But I am. I’m not just thankful that I have money to pay them, I am thankful that someone thinks I can handle this responsibility and holds me accountable for it, every month. There are of course times that I wish these institutions were like my boss or my mother and a little more understanding.. but at the same time, my bills are things that I knowingly signed up for. I made the decision to move out, knowing that I would have to pay rent each month, more or less for the rest of my life… as well as utilities and internet and such. I knew when I started driving that I’d have to have insurance, and that the freedom of being able to go wherever I wanted, when I wanted, so long as I had gas, would cost me a monthly payment.

I’m someone who likes guidelines. I like knowing where the boundaries are. In fact, I’ve been known to push peoples’ buttons just so that in the future, I have that knowledge of what that person’s fuse is. Maybe that’s why I appreciate the hard lines of my bills so much. Ironically, appreciating my responsibilities is like a positive affirmation. Appreciating the fact that I am able to meet these responsibilities means that I will continue to be responsible when these bills have all been paid – and at that point, my investments in myself will really be paying off.

Of course, that’s not to say I’m fabulously wealthy and have a bunch of money to burn. I do live in an apartment. I have been shopping for a house but that’s just not in my 21-year-old budget. I drive a car that’s 8 or more years old and I regularly maintain it. This last year has been a  bit difficult for me. Between launching my own business and taking classes without changing my work schedule, I also decided to take on some more financial responsibility (in order to help my credit support buying a house in the somewhat-near future). So, no matter how thankful I am for my bills, I still had to curb my spending habits and teach myself some new tricks. Here are a few of the things I learned so that you can try them, yourself.

  • I always run up a monthly budget of how much inflow I will have (I round this down) and how much my regular bills cost me (I round this up). I also include some variables like gas and groceries. My new trick for this year was to specify how much fun money I was allowed between paychecks. This is the same theory behind building in some junk food into a new diet – allowing yourself SOME freedom to buy things when you are on a budget prevents you from going cold turkey and completely splurging.
  • the “3x rule” – if I find something I think I need, I wait until I have felt that ‘need’ three times before I allow myself to buy it. Especially because I have access to just about every electronic do-dad, every book, and every piece of music I could possibly want, this really helps cut down on extraneous spending.
  • pay yourself. Sometimes this is extremely difficult to do. Trust me, I know this more than anyone else. I have several ways I do this – both electronically and physically – but the important thing here is to save a little something from each check. This is the most rewarding thing I have ever done and although I have ended up using a lot of these little savings for emergency bills as they’ve come up, that is exactly why it is important to save my money. I never know when I will need a little extra financial help.

I hope sharing my experience and lessons learned helps someone out there, especially with the fast approaching holiday. Please have a happy and safe Thanksgiving! Namaste <3

Do things feel a little crazy right now? Blame the incoming MercuryRx

I’m not much of an astrology buff, but I’ve started to pay more attention when I notice things, well, going to hell in a hand basket. Mercury is a planet (duh) but because this planet is associated with communications and technology, it’s pretty obvious when it’s energetic influence is going sour. For example, without fail, I seem to get into some stupid fight with a close friend or relative every single time Mercury goes retrograde. Here’s another way to look at it – Mercury Rx is astrology’s version of Murphy’s Law. Ergo, anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.

What happens is the planet appears to be moving backwards through the solar system. It’s an illusion that occurs when the other planets around it aren’t moving in tandem with this small, red planet. Specifically, the earth wobbles on an axis which means it fluctuates between 2 and 5 degrees off-center at any point during the year. And when we’re tipped one way or the other, the earth feels like it’s spinning faster, which creates the illusion that the other planets are moving at different speeds. Think of driving on the highway with another car besides you. If that car slows down, it seems like they are going backwards – but it’s only an illusion that happens based on your point of reference.

Mercury hasn’t gone retrograde quite yet – it’s scheduled to be official on Thanksgiving (November 23rd for non-Americans) – but you might already be feeling the effects now. I’ve already experienced some quite agitated text-messaging and emails, and the timing really is quite impeccable. Energetically speaking, the environment feels very agitated, on the edge of chaos; not unlike TV shows where a place has been doused in gasoline and the viewers are waiting on the edges of their seats for that one little spark that will send the whole place ablaze. The good news is that sometimes, when we clear the air and get rid of those things that create static in our relationships, we usually feel a lot better afterwords. But there are a few more things I should probably tell you.

The first bad news is that Mercury isn’t supposed to go direct until December 14th, and even then, it will take a few days to go completely back to normal. The second part is that Mercury is going retrograde while the Sun is in Sagittarius. Do you have any Sag friends? As a Sag, I can tell you that this particular Mercury Rx isn’t going to be subtle in the slightest. It’s going to be blunt and less-than-tactful. Be careful of foot-in-mouth syndromes. And I’m not talking just locally, there will probably be some national or even global implications.

There will be lots of feeling like things have just piled up and have gotten out og control. For example, if you’ve been with your guy or gal for a while now and have put off telling him/her a few things about what irk you… now is the time where they will come barreling out of the closet and quite possibly ruin your afternoon.  Now, granted, I’m also in a season of my life where I am pruning out certain things and people from my life, and trying to encourage what I’d like to keep, so maybe this is just for me. But for the most part, the biggest thing about Mercury Rx is the constant little annoyances that pile up and make life really frustrating.

During this holiday season, it might help to keep thinking about things that you are grateful for, or to keep a stress ball in your pocket. Perhaps switching up your exercise routine and adding in some more Reiki or meditation can help keep those irritations from bugging you. I personally like blue calcite and amethyst when Mercury retrogrades – blue calcite is a stone that aids communication and amethyst is a healer and soother. I’ve also used lavender essential oil, which helps me fall asleep at night.

What activities and tips do you have for surviving Mercury Rx?

Did you know you have a 24-7 spiritual support network?

When we are on this earth, we have multiple forms of support. We’re all familiar with our nuclear family (brothers, sisters, parents), our extended families (cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents), our friends, our co-workers, our colleagues, neighbors, employers, religious authorities, and so on and so forth. But did you know you also have a support team made of spirits who have no other job except to be at your shoulder?

Your spirit guides are beings of love and light who are enlightened enough to function as guides. They differ from angels because spirit guides have had human incarnations, whereas angels are messengers who may take human form in order to get their jobs done. Spirit guides don’t do the work for you, and they don’t give you specific instructions for what to do – but they are exceptional at providing support, sharing experience, and inspiring you. You may have anywhere between 3 to 40 guides at any one time. These spiritual agents help us get through the most difficult times in our lives, as well as encouraging us to take care of ourselves and to have fun.

Want to learn more about these helpers? Read my post, the 411 on Spirit Guides.

Win a free 2012 tarot forecast

It is November and that means the end of the year is right around the corner. More specifically, we’ll be making New Year’s Resolutions and setting goals for 2012 before you know it. Getting a forecast for the upcoming year can help you get a feel for what to expect, but, more importantly, it can help give you direction, support and inspiration for priorities, potential trouble areas, and even help you get the most out of your year. Never had a reading with me before? Check out some of the fantastic praise I’ve gotten here. I am giving away ONE of these readings (a $75 value!) to one very lucky individual – and that lucky person could be you. Yes, you heard me right, you! There are only TWO things you need to do to enter for a chance to win!

HOW TO QUALIFY

The first thing you have to do is share the news! There are three different ways you can do this -

  1. reblog the link to this post (http://tinyurl.com/7reurxn) to your followers on Tumblr
  2. Tweet this to your followers (or hit the ‘Share on Twitter’ button at the bottom of this post); I just signed up for a chance to win a free tarot forecast for next year from @constantine319 http://tinyurl.com/7reurxn
  3. The last way you can do this is to like my Facebook page, Spirit Guided Solutions, and tag it in a post that says; I just signed up for a chance to win a free tarot forecast for next year from Spirit Guided Solutions

The second thing you need to do is fill out this form telling me how you advertised the giveaway. The most important thing about this is to give me your email address so I can notify you if you win! You can include the link to the post if you’re feeling extra generous.

THE NITTY GRITTY

Each time you tweet, reblog or tag my business on Facebook and then follow up with filling out the form constitutes as an entry. You can enter twice (2 times) a day. You’ll be disqualified if you enter more than 2x per day (I’ll know). Contest ends at 11pm CST on Wednesday, November 23rd, and the winner will be contacted sometime the following day. The winner will be selected at random, using an online random selector. The winner has 24 hours to return the contact in order to receive the reading – if he/she doesn’t reply for some reason, I will select another winner.

You do not need to follow this blog, my Tumblr, or my Twitter account to qualify. You do not need to like my Facebook page in order to qualify. (But if you DO, you’ll be the first to know when these giveaways are happening – so why not?)

This reading may take up to 3 days to complete. I use 12 cards from a tarot deck and 3 cards (or more) from an oracle deck.

Ready, set.. GO!